The second kind of negative criticism is much worse, and there are usually some hallmarks that should alert you. The reviewer or reader makes personal statements about you. They use language that is not constructive and will never help you understand their point of view like, ‘that’s stupid!’ They are argumentative or combative. Those are the ones to avoid and ignore. They insist on making their point over and over, never allowing another commenter to have the last word. The writer never wins – don’t engage. The best lesson to learn is to move on.
I’ve found most readers and reviewers don’t give too many negative reviews and I think part of it is that who wants to spend their time writing or posting about something they don’t like. Most of us don’t. The important thing to remember, though, is to never, ever comment back to a negative review. It’s bad form and whatever tone we think we take, may be interpreted a completely different way, and on some level, we’re all a little defensive about what we write. So even without trying, there can be an attitude that comes through in what we say. But more than any of that, everyone is entitled to think what they want, and while tempting, to challenge someone’s opinion about something wholly subjective, is pointless. There are no facts or figures to rely on, only their feelings that have been shaped by their unique circumstances, upbringing, preferences and experiences.
I’ve always believed self-confidence is a main key to success in lots of avenues of our lives. Encourage your own confidence as a writer, be positive, and while those wonderful reviews feel really good when we read them, don’t rely overmuch on what others think, especially individual reviews. Understand that the book business is a global market, where a percentage will rave and a percentage will boo. Find the general consensus. I’m convinced writers know when they’ve written something that is good, and, conversely, when they’ve written something not so good. More than likely your own honest opinion of your own work will line up with the vast majority of reviews. But more than anything, keep writing.
My Review: August 2013 ~ Review Copies ~
My rating: 4 of 5 stars
First, I would like to thank the author Holly Bush for giving me this book for an honest review. As I have mentioned before, I love historical romance, the research and the hard work that goes into them is just amazing. Holly Bush did something a bit different with this book, and I really enjoyed it. I like when an author surprises me with the characters and story. I look forward to reading more of Holly's work. Holly did a great job with character development and world building. I look forward to reading more.
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